As the mother of two pre-teenage girls, my ears perked up a few months ago when someone was talking about how a person can become so easily and quickly addicted to Methamphetamine(Crystal Meth).
Apparently, the first time you try this stimulating drug, the affects can be felt within seconds. There is an intense euphoric rush that can last for a few moments to several hours depending on how you use it. Unfortunately, it is this first high that is so amazing, the drug user is hooked. He/She wants that first all-time high feeling back again, but this isn't possible, so they are then consumed with trying to chase that first rush. Injecting, smoking and snorting more and more meth and becoming quickly addicted to this easily-made and inexpensive drug.
So, this is where I started thinking...What other things do we crave?
Alcohol? Yes
Sugar? Yes
Sex? Yes
Love? hmmm! I wonder.
I was thinking about relationships. Mine, my friends, my co-workers. There are so many stories about unhappy marriages, ugly divorces and un-healthy, toxic couples.
This blog isn't about the relationships that start badly from the beginning, but instead the ones where the couples were so in love you could spot them from across the street. The couples that are smiling, holding hands and gazing into each other's eyes.
The couples who you look at, smile and think, Wow! Now that's a couple in love, or Gee, I wish someone loved me that much.
So, here's my thought..
Maybe you did have that!
Is it possible that many of us experience those glorious few months or years where life is wonderful, nothing else matters and love conquers all until one day we realize that we no longer feel that sense of euphoria. The rose colored glasses are ripped off and we see that working eight hours a day, raising a family and running a house drain passion and romance out of a relationship in the blink of an eye.
We barely remember that starry-eyed couple who promised to love, honour and never go to bed angry, yet we long for those feelings we distantly recall.
We wake up one morning in the same clothes we went to bed in. The ones we were too tired to drag off and throw beside our bed after getting the kids to sleep, folding one more load of laundry and tidying the kitchen and we wonder why can't our relationship be how it was before?
We think about this often. We wish our husband, boyfriend or spouse would still cuddle us, hug us and make passionate love to us. We wish we could have what we had before. We in fact begin to obsess about the way it use to be before life got in the way.
We complain to our girlfriends,"Why can't he remember our anniversary, why doesn't he tell me he loves me anymore, why doesn't he buy me flowers, presents, chocolate like he use to?"
We don't focus on how we can improve our relationship for the future. Instead we continue to try and capture the feelings we lost so long ago.
This is stupid! You won't ever have that first high, those butterflies feelings in your stomach or that warm flush of excitement in your relationship again, but that doesn't mean you can't have a wonderful and enriching relationship with your partner.
Remind yourself that euphoria can't last forever and it would be dangerous to continue try and chase something that just isn't sustainable.
Find new things to admire about your partner everyday. The traits that make him a great friend, a fantastic Dad or even a loyal employee. The characteristics that last and don't fade or dim over the years.
Stop trying to chase the past and start appreciate the present, so you can build a bright future. One that with a strong foundation built on trust, love and faith can withstand any test of time.
Best wishes!
Cindy
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Friday, August 29, 2008
Disappointing Jenna!
We often hear stories of parents being disappointed by their children. We, as parents have high expectations of our kids and when they do something we disagree with we are obviously upset.
What about when our kids are disappointed by us??
I will never forget the first time I disappointed my daughter, Jenna. She was in kindergarten and I had offered to volunteer in the class on her birthday. We were having a great day when just before lunch, she came to me and asked where the special treat was. I gave her a blank look and asked, "What special treat?" She replied, "The special treat you bring for the class to celebrate my birthday!" I obviously missed the memo on that one. I had no treat to mark my five year old's birthday celebration with the class. I screwed up! I will never forget the look of sadness in my daughter's eyes that day.
The second time I remember disappointing Jenna, she was playing outside on our street. I called her home and told her I needed to talk. She was grinning from ear to ear and asked if we were going to Disneyland. I told her it was not good news that I needed to share and she screamed, "Are you and Dad getting a divorce?" Unfortunately, we were! We went into the house to meet up with my husband and my youngest daughter, Sierra and tried to explain that we were going to try a separation. The tearful memory of the four of us crying together in the family room still haunts me, but again it was the look of disappointment from Jenna that I will never forget.
Last night was the third time of disappointing Jenna. This weekend is the last long weekend before school starts. Jenna is excited about starting grade eight. I had booked myself a long-overdue hair cut with a new stylist about a week ago and was looking forward to treating myself to a new look. Jenna told me a few days ago that she really wanted a new hair cut before school. I called our regular stylist and our alternate stylist, but both were booked up for at least a couple of weeks. I asked Jenna if she wanted to try the new stylist with me. She agreed. I booked two additional appointments to coincide with mine for both Jenna and Sierra.
I should been wary when the stylist called 30 minutes before our appointments to ask if we could come an hour and a half later; she was running behind schedule.
We showed up at the new time to find our new stylist was not really set up for cutting hair in her home. (Both of our other stylists have fully-equipped salons located in their homes, so this has never been a problem.) Anyway, this new stylist had not installed a sink, so she thought she could spray our hair with a water bottle and then cut it.
Jenna reluctantly agreed to go first and immediately I was concerned that this was not going to be a good experience. Jenna has thick curly hair that needs shampoo and conditioner before a comb out. The stylist cut off much more hair than Jenna had wanted and really made a mess out of one side. I stood there silently watching Jenna bite her lip to keep from crying. What 12 year old year wants to start back to school with a terrible hair cut?? Jenna had to endure this grueling experience for an hour and a half.
Sierra refused to go next, so I told the stylist, "Perhaps it would be better if we came back when you had a sink and all of your supplies in order." Sierra and I escaped hair intact.
When we got outside I was upset that I never got my much needed hair cut, but when Jenna turned around, tears streaming down my face and yelling at me that I should have never made her get her hair cut there, I was devastated. It brought back all of the painful memories of the forgotten cupcakes in kindergarten.
I never want to hurt my children. I try to be the best Mom I can, but sometimes we end up disappointing the only people we try so hard not to!
I know this isn't the last time I will disappoint Jenna, but that doesn't make it any easier this time around. Luckily hair grows and I think the cupcakes are a distant memory, so perhaps despite my failures as a parent, Jenna will grow up normal and unscathed.
What about when our kids are disappointed by us??
I will never forget the first time I disappointed my daughter, Jenna. She was in kindergarten and I had offered to volunteer in the class on her birthday. We were having a great day when just before lunch, she came to me and asked where the special treat was. I gave her a blank look and asked, "What special treat?" She replied, "The special treat you bring for the class to celebrate my birthday!" I obviously missed the memo on that one. I had no treat to mark my five year old's birthday celebration with the class. I screwed up! I will never forget the look of sadness in my daughter's eyes that day.
The second time I remember disappointing Jenna, she was playing outside on our street. I called her home and told her I needed to talk. She was grinning from ear to ear and asked if we were going to Disneyland. I told her it was not good news that I needed to share and she screamed, "Are you and Dad getting a divorce?" Unfortunately, we were! We went into the house to meet up with my husband and my youngest daughter, Sierra and tried to explain that we were going to try a separation. The tearful memory of the four of us crying together in the family room still haunts me, but again it was the look of disappointment from Jenna that I will never forget.
Last night was the third time of disappointing Jenna. This weekend is the last long weekend before school starts. Jenna is excited about starting grade eight. I had booked myself a long-overdue hair cut with a new stylist about a week ago and was looking forward to treating myself to a new look. Jenna told me a few days ago that she really wanted a new hair cut before school. I called our regular stylist and our alternate stylist, but both were booked up for at least a couple of weeks. I asked Jenna if she wanted to try the new stylist with me. She agreed. I booked two additional appointments to coincide with mine for both Jenna and Sierra.
I should been wary when the stylist called 30 minutes before our appointments to ask if we could come an hour and a half later; she was running behind schedule.
We showed up at the new time to find our new stylist was not really set up for cutting hair in her home. (Both of our other stylists have fully-equipped salons located in their homes, so this has never been a problem.) Anyway, this new stylist had not installed a sink, so she thought she could spray our hair with a water bottle and then cut it.
Jenna reluctantly agreed to go first and immediately I was concerned that this was not going to be a good experience. Jenna has thick curly hair that needs shampoo and conditioner before a comb out. The stylist cut off much more hair than Jenna had wanted and really made a mess out of one side. I stood there silently watching Jenna bite her lip to keep from crying. What 12 year old year wants to start back to school with a terrible hair cut?? Jenna had to endure this grueling experience for an hour and a half.
Sierra refused to go next, so I told the stylist, "Perhaps it would be better if we came back when you had a sink and all of your supplies in order." Sierra and I escaped hair intact.
When we got outside I was upset that I never got my much needed hair cut, but when Jenna turned around, tears streaming down my face and yelling at me that I should have never made her get her hair cut there, I was devastated. It brought back all of the painful memories of the forgotten cupcakes in kindergarten.
I never want to hurt my children. I try to be the best Mom I can, but sometimes we end up disappointing the only people we try so hard not to!
I know this isn't the last time I will disappoint Jenna, but that doesn't make it any easier this time around. Luckily hair grows and I think the cupcakes are a distant memory, so perhaps despite my failures as a parent, Jenna will grow up normal and unscathed.
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
What Are You Waiting For?
Yesterday was a typical day, or was it?
When I reflected on the day's events I realized that there was a common thread. First, I had a co-worker come into my office for chat. She is in an unhappy marriage and I believe wants to leave, but for some reason doesn't have the ability to do so even though she is miserable. I keep asking her what she is going to do and offer suggestions and advice.
Second, I had lunch with a dear friend who was frustrated because one of her closest friends is terminally ill with less than a year to live. Let me explain. It's not the thought of death that is frustrating my friend, but the fact that her terminal friend seems to focusing on everything negative and not living her last days to the fullest.
Third, I was invited to a home jewellery party last night and during a couple of my conversations with my friends I realized that a few of these people wanted change in their lives, but again just talked about what it is they wanted and not how they were going to get it!
So, again I ask what are you waiting for?
One girl last night told me that writing a book was on her "bucket list" For those of you who don't know what a bucket list is....well, as the name suggests, it's the list of things you want to do before you kick the bucket.
Until recently, I never had a bucket list, but I always did write and edit my goals list. I love crossing off my accomplishments regardless of their magnitude. It doesn't matter if I check off travel to Mexico, have my teeth whitened, or take a yoga class. Once I have completed the task I take great pleasure in crossing that item off my list. Sometimes my goals change, so I edit my list regularly.
I don't worry if some accomplishments may take years to complete, but I do like to include certain tasks that can be completed in a short time frame, so I can feel successful.
I wonder why some people are reluctant to write their list. Are they afraid to fail? Are they afraid to start something? Are they afraid to commit?
I know people who make excuses for putting off change. When I ask, "What are you waiting for?" They say, I will do that once I lose 20 pounds, or I will try that after my children are grown. Every answer may be unique, but regardless of their excuse, the result is the same. If they are waiting for something...they don't want change....they just want to talk about their situation....they just want attention. This isn't necessarily bad, but recognize they don't want help solving their problems. The problems give them something to talk about!
So now when people talk about wanting to change a situation, I ask. "What are you waiting for!" If they have an answer then I know they probably don't really want to make a change. They just want empathy. Which is great since I can listen without worrying about how to help solve their problems.
When I reflected on the day's events I realized that there was a common thread. First, I had a co-worker come into my office for chat. She is in an unhappy marriage and I believe wants to leave, but for some reason doesn't have the ability to do so even though she is miserable. I keep asking her what she is going to do and offer suggestions and advice.
Second, I had lunch with a dear friend who was frustrated because one of her closest friends is terminally ill with less than a year to live. Let me explain. It's not the thought of death that is frustrating my friend, but the fact that her terminal friend seems to focusing on everything negative and not living her last days to the fullest.
Third, I was invited to a home jewellery party last night and during a couple of my conversations with my friends I realized that a few of these people wanted change in their lives, but again just talked about what it is they wanted and not how they were going to get it!
So, again I ask what are you waiting for?
One girl last night told me that writing a book was on her "bucket list" For those of you who don't know what a bucket list is....well, as the name suggests, it's the list of things you want to do before you kick the bucket.
Until recently, I never had a bucket list, but I always did write and edit my goals list. I love crossing off my accomplishments regardless of their magnitude. It doesn't matter if I check off travel to Mexico, have my teeth whitened, or take a yoga class. Once I have completed the task I take great pleasure in crossing that item off my list. Sometimes my goals change, so I edit my list regularly.
I don't worry if some accomplishments may take years to complete, but I do like to include certain tasks that can be completed in a short time frame, so I can feel successful.
I wonder why some people are reluctant to write their list. Are they afraid to fail? Are they afraid to start something? Are they afraid to commit?
I know people who make excuses for putting off change. When I ask, "What are you waiting for?" They say, I will do that once I lose 20 pounds, or I will try that after my children are grown. Every answer may be unique, but regardless of their excuse, the result is the same. If they are waiting for something...they don't want change....they just want to talk about their situation....they just want attention. This isn't necessarily bad, but recognize they don't want help solving their problems. The problems give them something to talk about!
So now when people talk about wanting to change a situation, I ask. "What are you waiting for!" If they have an answer then I know they probably don't really want to make a change. They just want empathy. Which is great since I can listen without worrying about how to help solve their problems.
Thursday, July 31, 2008
The Journey or the Destination
I enjoyed lunch with one of my closest friends, J. yesterday. J. is almost 23, owns a home, works in public relations and is not only self-sufficient, but gorgeous too! While we were enjoying our Asian salads, she was telling about her recent trip with her family. They went to England to visit family and then on a cruise for a couple of weeks. All in all J. told me it was an amazing trip. I already knew J. had a passion for travel, yet I was still surprised when she asked me if she was taking life too seriously and wondered if she should quit her job and go to Spain for a month, or a year.
Difficult question to answer. One of the things I admire the most about J. is her drive and dedication to her career and future. I guess I remember that J. is a lot like I was in my early 20s. I worked three jobs and spent my time setting and achieving items on my goal list. My Dad once told me I was much older than my years, which at the time I saw as a compliment. Everything seemed to go according to plan. I was married by 25. Had a couple of kids. Owned a nice home, ran a successful staffing business and then it happened.
I was encouraged by my business partner to return to school. I did so reluctantly at first, but then began to love everything school had to offer. I made new friends, (granted most of them were 15 years younger than me) learned a lot and began to want different things.
In my last year of school, I changed my life dramatically. I left my husband, sold my home, moved home with my parents, sold my share of my staffing agency and had shared custody of my children. Why did I disrupt my stable, familiar life for one of uncertainty and instability?
I don't have an answer for you, but I think I was tired of always doing what was expected and wanted the opportunity to have a bit of fun while I was still young enough. (Just before my 40th birthday!)
I wonder if I had been a little more scattered when I was 20 if I would have gone through this mid-life kind of crisis. If I had been reckless and carefree 20 years ago would I have still felt like something was missing in my life?
Don't get me wrong I did do a fair bit of travelling in my early 20's. In fact it was on a week-long trip to Mexico I met and fell in love with my ex-husband, but I never enjoyed the journey because I was always so focused on the destination. Marriage, kids, a new house, a emergency savings plan.
I couldn't give J. an answer yesterday, but today I think my advice is it's better to act like a carefree 20 year old in your twenties. Not when you are approaching 40 and you have a husband and kids that suffer the fall out!
Difficult question to answer. One of the things I admire the most about J. is her drive and dedication to her career and future. I guess I remember that J. is a lot like I was in my early 20s. I worked three jobs and spent my time setting and achieving items on my goal list. My Dad once told me I was much older than my years, which at the time I saw as a compliment. Everything seemed to go according to plan. I was married by 25. Had a couple of kids. Owned a nice home, ran a successful staffing business and then it happened.
I was encouraged by my business partner to return to school. I did so reluctantly at first, but then began to love everything school had to offer. I made new friends, (granted most of them were 15 years younger than me) learned a lot and began to want different things.
In my last year of school, I changed my life dramatically. I left my husband, sold my home, moved home with my parents, sold my share of my staffing agency and had shared custody of my children. Why did I disrupt my stable, familiar life for one of uncertainty and instability?
I don't have an answer for you, but I think I was tired of always doing what was expected and wanted the opportunity to have a bit of fun while I was still young enough. (Just before my 40th birthday!)
I wonder if I had been a little more scattered when I was 20 if I would have gone through this mid-life kind of crisis. If I had been reckless and carefree 20 years ago would I have still felt like something was missing in my life?
Don't get me wrong I did do a fair bit of travelling in my early 20's. In fact it was on a week-long trip to Mexico I met and fell in love with my ex-husband, but I never enjoyed the journey because I was always so focused on the destination. Marriage, kids, a new house, a emergency savings plan.
I couldn't give J. an answer yesterday, but today I think my advice is it's better to act like a carefree 20 year old in your twenties. Not when you are approaching 40 and you have a husband and kids that suffer the fall out!
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Proud to be Calgarian
I live in one of Canada's greatest cities; Calgary. Blue skies, friendly people and no provincial tax. Oh, and did I mention we host the Calgary Stampede every July. This rodeo invites the world to come and see how we live for ten days. Wearing jeans and cowboy hats to work, dining daily on pancake breakfasts and bar-b-que beef on bun, we crank up the country tunes and even line dance in public. We buy beers for anyone that saddles up to us at the bar, everyone is our friend and it's one big happy party. What's not to love?
Well, it's the other 355 days of the year when Calgarians lose their sense of community and generosity. Calgarians have always been complimented on their friendliness, but it would seem as our city grows and more and more people claim Calgary to be their home, we are losing our friendly reputation.
It's no easy task to drive home from work on any given day without someone cutting you off, swerving into your lane, edging past everyone else in an effort to get to the front of the soon to end merge lane. Share the road!! Let people in in front of you. Thank people if they let you in!
Dining out? It is no longer a treat to go out for meal after a long day at the office since the service often ranges from poor to mediocre. Servers no longer seem to care about customer service. The looks of contempt when you ask for a soup spoon or the salt is enough of a put-off, but when they are annoyed that you need change in order to give them a tip it's really aggravating!
Try ordering a large drink at Starbucks. They can't just fill your order! The barrista must first explain in his condescending tone that they don't have large drinks. Only tall, grande and venti. What the hell? What happened to the customer is always right?? Just give me my drink please. Oh, and now I have to tip you because you made me a cup of coffee?
I recently attended my daughter's dance competition and was waiting to watch her group perform when the other mother I was with needed to go to the washroom. When she went to leave the auditorium, the usher told her, she couldn't leave. My friend explained she just needed to use the facilities and was told, "If I can't go to the bathroom, you can't either!" My friend came back to her seat and sat down speechless.
I hope the stories people tell about Calgarians are mostly positive and that the negative experiences are few and far between. I certainly don't want my reputation to be smeared cause I love being a Calgarian!
Yee haw!
Well, it's the other 355 days of the year when Calgarians lose their sense of community and generosity. Calgarians have always been complimented on their friendliness, but it would seem as our city grows and more and more people claim Calgary to be their home, we are losing our friendly reputation.
It's no easy task to drive home from work on any given day without someone cutting you off, swerving into your lane, edging past everyone else in an effort to get to the front of the soon to end merge lane. Share the road!! Let people in in front of you. Thank people if they let you in!
Dining out? It is no longer a treat to go out for meal after a long day at the office since the service often ranges from poor to mediocre. Servers no longer seem to care about customer service. The looks of contempt when you ask for a soup spoon or the salt is enough of a put-off, but when they are annoyed that you need change in order to give them a tip it's really aggravating!
Try ordering a large drink at Starbucks. They can't just fill your order! The barrista must first explain in his condescending tone that they don't have large drinks. Only tall, grande and venti. What the hell? What happened to the customer is always right?? Just give me my drink please. Oh, and now I have to tip you because you made me a cup of coffee?
I recently attended my daughter's dance competition and was waiting to watch her group perform when the other mother I was with needed to go to the washroom. When she went to leave the auditorium, the usher told her, she couldn't leave. My friend explained she just needed to use the facilities and was told, "If I can't go to the bathroom, you can't either!" My friend came back to her seat and sat down speechless.
I hope the stories people tell about Calgarians are mostly positive and that the negative experiences are few and far between. I certainly don't want my reputation to be smeared cause I love being a Calgarian!
Yee haw!
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Be Interested, Not Interesting!
This is the best advice I ever heard. Think about it! We are so often wanting to impress people that while they are talking to us we are thinking about what we want to tell them about ourselves. We don't care what they are telling us and we keep thinking hurry up and finish your story cause I have something really important to say, or worse we can't wait any longer, so we interrupt them mid-sentence because we have something we deem valuable to contribute to their conversation.
Most people could improve their active listening skills. What is Active Listening?
Active, effective listening is a habit,as well as the foundation of effective communication. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to, whether in a group or one-on-one, in order to understand what he or she is saying. As the listener, you should then be able to repeat back in your own words what they have said to their satisfaction. This does not mean you agree with, but rather understand, what they are saying. http://www.studygs.net/listening.htm
I know that I have been trying to work on my active listening skills and sometimes it's really hard when I don't want to forget what I want to say. I have this little trick that I use when someone is talking to me and I think of something I want to say. I just close my first and stick out my thumb. This is a subtle reminder to myself to hold that thought and allow me to keep listening to my companion. There is a downside cause sometimes the person you are having the conversation with just never stops talking and no matter what you can't get a word in! If you feel you have been an active listener and want a chance to speak up then wait for your companion to take a breath, say something indicating you have heard what they just finished saying and then say that reminds me...and begin your story!
If anyone has any other suggestions for stopping the narcissistic talker, I am all ears!!
Most people could improve their active listening skills. What is Active Listening?
Active, effective listening is a habit,as well as the foundation of effective communication. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to, whether in a group or one-on-one, in order to understand what he or she is saying. As the listener, you should then be able to repeat back in your own words what they have said to their satisfaction. This does not mean you agree with, but rather understand, what they are saying. http://www.studygs.net/listening.htm
I know that I have been trying to work on my active listening skills and sometimes it's really hard when I don't want to forget what I want to say. I have this little trick that I use when someone is talking to me and I think of something I want to say. I just close my first and stick out my thumb. This is a subtle reminder to myself to hold that thought and allow me to keep listening to my companion. There is a downside cause sometimes the person you are having the conversation with just never stops talking and no matter what you can't get a word in! If you feel you have been an active listener and want a chance to speak up then wait for your companion to take a breath, say something indicating you have heard what they just finished saying and then say that reminds me...and begin your story!
If anyone has any other suggestions for stopping the narcissistic talker, I am all ears!!
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Hangers could have saved my marriage
My marriage ended three years ago. When people ask, "Why did you guys break up?" I have a hard time answering. I really don't know, it just seemed that everything was hard. We argued, squabbled, fought and couldn't seem to agree on anything. My ex can tell you why we split up. He recently told someone it was because I quit doing laundry and I know he really thinks that is the reason. He's not wrong. I do remember one night in frustration throwing my hands in the air and shouting, "That's it! I quit doing laundry!" I know my friend, Lisa loves doing laundry. She finds it soothing and rewarding, but I on the other hand never could get it all done and if I did manage to wash and dry everything there were still baskets all over the house and piles of clean laundry sitting on dressers that were already crammed full and overflowing. I get frustrated now thinking about my laundry failures. I tried to sort clothes and donate whatever was too small or dated, but I still never seemed to be able to solve my laundry dilemma until now three years later. I recently moved into a new house with a similar layout to my old house and was starting to worry about my laundry issues when I decided to go to the store and buy a few more hangers. I bought 20 and started to hang up my clothes as they came out of the dryer. In the past I would fold everything when I had time, or worse crumple the clean clothes into the laundry basket and haul it upstairs for folding at a later date. I soon realized that 20 new hangers weren't enough, so I purchased 20 more. Still not enough, so yesterday I went out and bought 90 more hangers. I finished every load of laundry, hung everything up and have only about 15 hangers left over. What a revelation. For my entire married life I was about 125 hangers short! No wonder I could never master the task of laundry. I didn't have the right tools. A simple solution for a very complicated problem. I was so absorbed with the big picture I wasn't able to see that by spending less than $50 dollars I could have saved myself many fights with my husband.
I wonder how many other arguments could be avoided with couples that can't cope only because they are missing a few essential tools?? I want to know what couples are fighting about...maybe there is an easy solution and extra hangers can't hurt!
I wonder how many other arguments could be avoided with couples that can't cope only because they are missing a few essential tools?? I want to know what couples are fighting about...maybe there is an easy solution and extra hangers can't hurt!
Friday, July 11, 2008
One Hundred Days of Drama
Okay, I have a friend who has the most bizarre things happen to her. So bizarre that she could be a real life Bridget Jones. Her stories make people laugh until they have tears running down their cheeks. I decided to challenge myself and come up with 100 true stories that have happened to my friend. This is story number one!
Lincoln is dating a guy in high school whose family just lives down the street from her family in an upscale, prominent neighborhood. One night Lincoln's boyfriend invites her over to his house to hang out while his parents are home in the den reading by the fire. The home has just gone through some remodelling, so when Lincoln needs to use the bathroom she is admiring the renovations and checking out the new decor. For some strange reason while she is sitting on the toilet, Lincoln sees the box of matches that has been left in this room for strategic reasons. Without thinking, Lincoln lights one of the matches and briefly holds it up against the roll of toilet paper and WHOOSH! The entire rolls goes up in flames creating a burning racing stripe running from the toilet paper roll up to the ceiling. Lincoln panics and uses the newly placed matching hand towels to beat out the fire. When the flames are diffused, Lincoln is staring at a black, smoking scar and is covered in ash and soot.
Lincoln is horrified. She now has to go out and try to explain what happened to both her boyfriend and his parents. Imagine their horror when they learn that Lincoln has torched their new bath.
Lincoln is dating a guy in high school whose family just lives down the street from her family in an upscale, prominent neighborhood. One night Lincoln's boyfriend invites her over to his house to hang out while his parents are home in the den reading by the fire. The home has just gone through some remodelling, so when Lincoln needs to use the bathroom she is admiring the renovations and checking out the new decor. For some strange reason while she is sitting on the toilet, Lincoln sees the box of matches that has been left in this room for strategic reasons. Without thinking, Lincoln lights one of the matches and briefly holds it up against the roll of toilet paper and WHOOSH! The entire rolls goes up in flames creating a burning racing stripe running from the toilet paper roll up to the ceiling. Lincoln panics and uses the newly placed matching hand towels to beat out the fire. When the flames are diffused, Lincoln is staring at a black, smoking scar and is covered in ash and soot.
Lincoln is horrified. She now has to go out and try to explain what happened to both her boyfriend and his parents. Imagine their horror when they learn that Lincoln has torched their new bath.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
It's not that hard guys....
Guys think girls are complicated, but really it's so simple (and inexpensive)to make us happy! Sure, diamonds are nice and who doesn't love a fancy meal out, but really guys...you want to rock our worlds? There are many things you can do to show us how much you care. All we really want to know you is that are thinking about us. We want to find a love note left under our windshield wiper when we go to start our car in the morning. We would love a single rose when we come home from work. A big lipstick heart on our bathroom mirror makes us swoon! Beware...best not to use our brand new tube of Dior. When you plan a date night for us, we talk about it for days. It's the little things that let us know you think we are great and make us feel loved. It's not enough to hear you those three words. Actions speak louder than words, so put your money where your mouth is and start using lipstick!! I bet your girlfriend will not only be thrilled, but she will also be willing to show her gratitude! Hmm! Another use for the lipstick?
If you like this idea then you might want to go to http://www.lulu.com/ and purchase "Wouldn't it be nice! 60 things a guy can do to make his girl smile) by Lucinda Drummond
If you like this idea then you might want to go to http://www.lulu.com/ and purchase "Wouldn't it be nice! 60 things a guy can do to make his girl smile) by Lucinda Drummond
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
What do you Want?
What do you want?
Stop! Go back and read that sentence again. What do you want? What do you really want? Do you know what you want? Do you focus on what you want? Do you spend time each day visualizing that you already have what you want? Do you recite daily affirmations to help ensure you stay committed to what you want?Do you decide you want something and then tell yourself that it is not possible? Do you ask for something and then think, “This is silly, or I don’t deserve this?”
The universal law of attraction is simple and it works, yet we are skeptical. We can accept other universal laws without question; the law of gravitation, the law of cause and effect, the law of vibration, yet some of us find it difficult to accept the law of attraction.The law of attraction states we attract whatever we think about. It doesn’t matter if our thoughts are good or bad, wanted or unwanted we are doing it constantly whether we are aware of it or not. http://www.universeofsuccess.com/ We don’t think about gravity when we awake every morning. We just trust that if we continue to put one foot in front of the other we will get to where we need to go. The same is true with the law of attraction. We don’t need to think about what we are thinking about, but if we are not aware of our thoughts it can be easy to automatically think negative thoughts. Constantly thinking positive thoughts can be hard work. Many of us are programmed to be negative or self doubting, so it is critical that you put into place practices to ensure you stay positive throughout each day.
Here are some tips to help you stay positive, so you can get want you want this year
Hang your vision board somewhere you see it often
Listen to inspirational discs while driving
Repeat your positive affirmations often (while brushing your teeth, waiting in line for groceries, filling up your car with gas)
Carry a gratitude rock to remind you to be grateful throughout the day
Meditate every day.
Stop! Go back and read that sentence again. What do you want? What do you really want? Do you know what you want? Do you focus on what you want? Do you spend time each day visualizing that you already have what you want? Do you recite daily affirmations to help ensure you stay committed to what you want?Do you decide you want something and then tell yourself that it is not possible? Do you ask for something and then think, “This is silly, or I don’t deserve this?”
The universal law of attraction is simple and it works, yet we are skeptical. We can accept other universal laws without question; the law of gravitation, the law of cause and effect, the law of vibration, yet some of us find it difficult to accept the law of attraction.The law of attraction states we attract whatever we think about. It doesn’t matter if our thoughts are good or bad, wanted or unwanted we are doing it constantly whether we are aware of it or not. http://www.universeofsuccess.com/ We don’t think about gravity when we awake every morning. We just trust that if we continue to put one foot in front of the other we will get to where we need to go. The same is true with the law of attraction. We don’t need to think about what we are thinking about, but if we are not aware of our thoughts it can be easy to automatically think negative thoughts. Constantly thinking positive thoughts can be hard work. Many of us are programmed to be negative or self doubting, so it is critical that you put into place practices to ensure you stay positive throughout each day.
Here are some tips to help you stay positive, so you can get want you want this year
Hang your vision board somewhere you see it often
Listen to inspirational discs while driving
Repeat your positive affirmations often (while brushing your teeth, waiting in line for groceries, filling up your car with gas)
Carry a gratitude rock to remind you to be grateful throughout the day
Meditate every day.
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