Addicted to Love

As the mother of two pre-teenage girls, my ears perked up a few months ago when someone was talking about how a person can become so easily and quickly addicted to Methamphetamine(Crystal Meth).

Apparently, the first time you try this stimulating drug, the affects can be felt within seconds. There is an intense euphoric rush that can last for a few moments to several hours depending on how you use it. Unfortunately, it is this first high that is so amazing, the drug user is hooked. He/She wants that first all-time high feeling back again, but this isn't possible, so they are then consumed with trying to chase that first rush. Injecting, smoking and snorting more and more meth and becoming quickly addicted to this easily-made and inexpensive drug.

So, this is where I started thinking...What other things do we crave?

Alcohol? Yes

Sugar? Yes

Sex? Yes

Love? hmmm! I wonder.

I was thinking about relationships. Mine, my friends, my co-workers. There are so many stories about unhappy marriages, ugly divorces and un-healthy, toxic couples.

This blog isn't about the relationships that start badly from the beginning, but instead the ones where the couples were so in love you could spot them from across the street. The couples that are smiling, holding hands and gazing into each other's eyes.

The couples who you look at, smile and think, Wow! Now that's a couple in love, or Gee, I wish someone loved me that much.

So, here's my thought..

Maybe you did have that!

Is it possible that many of us experience those glorious few months or years where life is wonderful, nothing else matters and love conquers all until one day we realize that we no longer feel that sense of euphoria. The rose colored glasses are ripped off and we see that working eight hours a day, raising a family and running a house drain passion and romance out of a relationship in the blink of an eye.

We barely remember that starry-eyed couple who promised to love, honour and never go to bed angry, yet we long for those feelings we distantly recall.

We wake up one morning in the same clothes we went to bed in. The ones we were too tired to drag off and throw beside our bed after getting the kids to sleep, folding one more load of laundry and tidying the kitchen and we wonder why can't our relationship be how it was before?

We think about this often. We wish our husband, boyfriend or spouse would still cuddle us, hug us and make passionate love to us. We wish we could have what we had before. We in fact begin to obsess about the way it use to be before life got in the way.

We complain to our girlfriends,"Why can't he remember our anniversary, why doesn't he tell me he loves me anymore, why doesn't he buy me flowers, presents, chocolate like he use to?"


We don't focus on how we can improve our relationship for the future. Instead we continue to try and capture the feelings we lost so long ago.

This is stupid! You won't ever have that first high, those butterflies feelings in your stomach or that warm flush of excitement in your relationship again, but that doesn't mean you can't have a wonderful and enriching relationship with your partner.

Remind yourself that euphoria can't last forever and it would be dangerous to continue try and chase something that just isn't sustainable.

Find new things to admire about your partner everyday. The traits that make him a great friend, a fantastic Dad or even a loyal employee. The characteristics that last and don't fade or dim over the years.

Stop trying to chase the past and start appreciate the present, so you can build a bright future. One that with a strong foundation built on trust, love and faith can withstand any test of time.

Best wishes!

Cindy