So a man walks into a relationship and says to his woman...."I love you, want to marry you and then would like to spend the rest of our lives together trying to change you!"
Get it?
Ummm...your answer should be no! That's the point. The joke is....that this would never happen.
I just read an article from Jari Love, fitness expert in which she claims, "Women marry men to change them and men marry women not to change!"
Why is this I wonder? Why do we have this need to fix our men?
We meet a guy, we like him and yet we feel some need to change them.
Do we think we are smarter than men?
Do we think we know how to do things better than they do?
Why can't we just accept the guy for who he is?
Would we be happy if our boyfriend/husband wanted us to change?
What if they only wanted us to be the best version of ourselves that we could be...
maybe they just want us to be healthier (skinnier), or they just want us to have fun and relax a little more (not worry so much about everything and stress out). Perhaps they think we would be happier if we dressed better, shopped less, cooked and cleaned more....it really doesn't matter....we know damn well that we wouldn't like our partner telling us to change.
So, why then do we expect them to change?
It's not like we want or need them to be like someone else....
We usually just want them to not be themselves. How terrible is that?
However, I have heard women remark, "Why can't you be more like Jim, or Bob wouldn't do that... or how about, Gee! Mark just sent Susie a dozen roses to her work. I wish you would send me flowers."
Now don't get me wrong...I think that there are times when it's appropriate to teach someone a lesson or give someone advice. If I was using a word incorrectly for example, I would want someone to take me aside and tell me to prevent me making the same mistake in the future.
But...as for trying to get our men to be what we want them to be....it's just never going to work!
Unless it's their idea, they are not going to want to eat less, drink less, or smoke less and they are certainly not going to want to exercise more, talk more or help out more.
We should spend less time trying to change them and more time appreciating them for who they are!
Just a thought!
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2 comments:
hahah , mommy ,
you're funny .
you blog about the randomist things .
i love you .
-jenna .
Women definitely do this alot! In my opinion, if something bothers you enough that you nag your partner to change it, perhaps it is a deal breaker for you and you are not with the right person. But often if we are trying to change small or insignificant things about others, we should focus on bettering ourselves instead of forcing others to change. Great post! Definitely made me think.
~JS
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